Citrus and Phenergan

I have found two things that help me battle nausea and vomiting.

First, citrus.  Specifically, citrus flavored gum.  So long as I'm constantly chewing on this, the nausea is less pronounced, and I can get things done - most of the time.

Second, a new drug for me since the zophran wasn't really working - phenergan.  This really does curb the nausea and vomiting, taking about an hour to kick in.  However - you knew there was a however, right? - it makes me VERY, VERY sleepy. Like, "I can hardly function" sleepy.  Like, "I just want to cry because I can't get anything done" sleepy.

And as I sit typing this right now, that's how I feel.  I took one of these pills an hour ago and now I'm soooo tired!  But Beth is home today - daycare closed because of New Year's Eve.  I hate it that she knows something is wrong with mommy; she knows mommy can't play with her right now; and I hate it that I know the TV babysitter is going to have to take center stage today because I can hardly type let alone play. 

I'm gonna have to take a light nap while she's watching Bambi right now.

Why, oh why, can't this advanced society make a good nausea drug that doesn't make me sleepy?!  I think I'll discuss that with my doctor on Tuesday - my 10 weeks work-up appointment.

ps. Sorry, yet again, for another "complaint" post.  I know this will all pass and in July I'll have a beautiful blessing to show for it.  I just can't bring myself to praise God for feeling so yucky right now - later. I'll do that later.

my heart is heavy

I have two friends who are going through the darkness of miscarriage this week.

One of my friends may be experiencing her fourth loss.  She has a beautiful girl, and her heart is set on at least one more.  I know that feeling! Unfortunately, she has had  a hard time getting pregnant, and when she finally did, it ended in a loss.  Then she got pregnant again, fairly quickly, with twins, and lost them both.  And now, well, the doctors don't hold out much hope for her current pregnancy.  Miscarriage once is hard, but miscarriage of four angels... that's just not fair.

Then this morning, I just heard from a friend via facebook that she had to have a DNC yesterday.  :-(  She and I were due around the same time.  She calls her little angel, Rose. 

My heart hurts for my friends.  Mostly because I know there isn't a thing I can do to ease their pain.  Hugz - virtual and real - I can give, but peace, I cannot.

Miscarriage changes you. Enough said.

Here are some videos I found myself watching this morning. Videos I spent a lot of time watching in August of 2010 this past year. 

Crying and remembering my own loss while grieving yours my dear friends...   ((((((((((((hugz)))))))))))

I used to watch this show (General Hospital) but not anymore. Still, this video is powerful. I love the song. For those who've experienced early miscarriage...


For those struggling to get and/or stay pregnant...


For us all...

Wordless Wednesday - kinda

Before I post my cute pic for Wordless Wednesday, I have to say a few words. hehe 

I just wanted to say thank you to those who have left words of encouragement to me during these hard days of battling with nausea and vomiting.   They really do help!  so...  (((((((((((((hugz))))))))))))))

Okay, now on to Wordless Wednesday...

Santa came for Beth! She got the Belle Tea Set she had asked him for!! ;-)

trying my hardest - really, I am!

As I type this, I am struggling to keep down my dinner while disturbing thoughts of, "What if this lasts throughout my entire pregnancy?!" run rapidly through my head. 

I hate feeling unproductive, helpless, and lazy.  That isn't me! But this nausea and vomiting has me feeling that way TO THE MAX! 

I'm trying not to dwell on these feelings, trying my hardest to be as productive as possible, but all I want to do is sit, sleep, and be still because that's the only time I feel better.

However, have you discovered, our houses don't clean themselves?! errr  God and me are gonna have to talk about that... ;-)

Anyway, Christmas in Indiana wasn't so bad.  I saw my mom and step-dad, saw my dad who I hadn't seen or talked to in over 6 months or more... I think more...  saw my aunt Cindy, and stayed with my sister and her family complete with almost 2 month old Lucas.  It all went well.  I was just so sick the entire time; I couldn't really enjoy it.  The family members I listed that I saw while up there is really just a small amount of the entire family that I have up north. I skipped seeing  a lot of people in favor for sitting lazily on my sister's couch and/or going to bed early.  Needless to say, I have a few mad aunts and a ticked grandmother, but I just couldn't physically get myself to see everyone this time.  Hated that, but it is what it is...

Now I'm staring at all these Christmas decorations around my house and want to weep!  Who is gonna put all this stuff away!?  Probably my uncomplaining husband - he's soooo good to me.  I couldn't make it through this pregnancy without him! 

Gonna call the doctor tomorrow and see if there isn't some other nausea meds that she can give me.  Taking the generic for Zophran (sp?) now, but it hardly works.  When your vomiting in your car on the way home only an hour after taking a pill that is supposedly an anti-nausea med, there's something wrong. 

Also, I need to confess to her that - please no one on here be angry with me about this - but I haven't been real regular with my prenatal or progesterone pills.  I can hardly get down food let alone pills that I subconsciously believe aid in my sickness.  I try to take them when I feel less likely to vomit, but there have been times where I've taken them only to see them soon afterward.  Sorry - TMI :-(

I'm struggling, ya'll.  And fast approaching is my March due date for my Angel Baby.  That's messin with my head.  With 2011, I was to be seeing a third trimester - instead, I'm in the midst of the most nauseous first trimester I've ever had.  And it makes me MAD!  Even though I know this is all in my Jesus' will, and His will is best, I'm selfish.  I wanted my plan, my Angel... oh.... I'm so sick...

I just need to stop typing... sorry for the lame post.  I'll try to get a more positive, God honoring post, when I feel a little better... if I feel better.

Baby Bean

Two things to share today...

1 - Lisa Ling is speaking out about her miscarriage.  She's doing this to raise awareness about miscarriage, but she is also trying to make this subject less taboo.  I love this!  It's one of the things I hope to do by talking about my miscarriage with others and not hiding it.  Take the time to read this article.  Lisa - You go girl!

2 -  Gotta get back to something I've neglected lately...

FORGET-ME-NOT FRIDAY
Something I don't want to forget... hearing the beautiful sound of a perfect heart beat. Let me introduce you to baby bean. :-)

First Ultrasound

The first ultrasound showed that our baby bean is perfect! So, yes, this is the first of many ultrasounds yet to come :-)

Thank you all so much for your prayers and such sweet comments left on my posts lately.  Thank you too for sharing this good news with me!

I must admit - I was scared to death when I walked into that office!  Dr. B wasn't in, and so Susie, the ultrasound tech, took care of me.  She was also the one who took care of me when I had the ultrasound to confirm that Angel Baby's heart had stopped.  She was so sweet today - extra sensitive to my feelings.

As soon as the ultrasound got started, she made a bee line to the heartbeat of our baby bean and let me hear it.  Then she passed me a tissue. Yes, I started to tear up.  She reassured me, everything looked great! Heartbeat perfect, measuring perfect, yolk sak where it should be and.... WHOA.... my right ovary from which I ovulated was HUGE!  She said it must be pumping out a massive amount of hormones - and I told her that my morning sickness could testify to that as a fact!!!!  So the large amount of hormones being produced by my body combined with the extra prometrium I'm taking, that's what's causing the morning sickness.  Hopefully, the nausea will be gone come the second trimester like it was with Beth.

I have another appointment on Jan. 4 - for the 10 week blood work and doctor work up - and then another two weeks after that for the 12 week scan.  I'm psyched! 

I did get an ultrasound pic from today.  When I can find the energy to go downstairs to our scanner and scan it, I'll post it on the blog. 

Thanks again you all for patiently going through this with me!  ((((hugz)))) to all!!!!!!!

Watch out - I'm about to go Kung Fu!

Thursday is my first ultrasound.  I'll be a day shy of 8 weeks.  And, ya'll, everything just has. to be. okay.

I have no reason to believe anything is wrong.  The early blood draws they took from me showed all was really good with my hormones.

I'm sick - to the point of vomiting almost daily now.  :-(  Supposed to be a great sign, right?  At least that's what everyone quickly tells me when I respond to the question of how I am.  "Oh!  That's a great sign!"  or "More vomiting is supposed to be a smarter baby."

ERRRRRR  all I have to say is, IT BETTER BE ALL THAT AND A LOT OF CHOCOLATE!  Cause if something is wrong, if this baby isn't okay on Thursday, I just feel....done! so done! 

I can't go through this again.  First, I can't go through any more losses - I won't.  I'm just not that strong. Those of you that have endured multiple loss - I bow down to you!  Your strength is AMAZING.

Second, I can't go through the beating my body takes each time I'm subjected to a first trimester.  I've said it before, but I'll say it again, I don't do pregnant well.  So let me apologize to all of you that get frustrated when pregnant people vent about how awful they feel.  I know you think, "They should just shut up and be thankful they are pregnant."  I am thankful I am pregnant - I am not thankful to be clutching the toilet every day!  And it's just not fair that there are those who can be pregnant out there and NEVER be sick but have healthy children.  NOT. FAIR. 

Anyway, yes, I would rather have morning sickness and vomiting than a loss - but if we're choosing here, I want NEITHER!

((sigh)) I'm sorry.  I'm so sorry... I'm just scared; I'm just sick; I'm just tired; I'm just overwhelmed.  You blog friends know - it helps to get it out, to write it out, and thus work it out.  Just let me do that here. 

You know I wouldn't want to offend any of you for the world!  But ... if I hear anyone else say to me, "Oh! I'm so glad to hear you're sick!" I may go kung-fu panda!!

A better day!

So although I woke up feeling pretty much useless - yes, nauseous and fatigued again - I told myself that I needed to do something for my daughter!  I couldn't have her spend her entire day staring at mommy lying on the couch in a stupor.  She deserves more than that!  So, I got up and got a shower - almost puked numerous times (yes, it's getting worse - yeah! I guess... ;-) - and then we got out of the house.

After a quick trip to get her bangs cut so I could see those beautiful blue eyes again, we went to see Santa!


This year, she wanted to sit on his lap and tell him what she wants for Christmas!  That's big!!  Last year, it wasn't gonna happen - she threw a huge fit as we neared his sleigh, and she had to yell to him what she wanted for Christmas because she wasn't about to touch him for anything!!

Well, this year, I asked her if she wanted mommy in the picture - she said, "No! I got this Mommy!"  She walked up the sleigh stairs, sat on his lap, and took the above picture.  She also said she wanted the Belle doll with matching tea set - which we have under the bed already - and she wants a Hello Kitty doll - which aunt Lisa has waiting for her.  It's all good!

Anyway, we came home, took a 3 hour nap, and now I feel better!  Finally, some moments without nausea!  I'm relishing every moment right now.  Gonna take it easy though, so we've watched Frosty the Snowman and now are watching Santa Clause is Coming to Town.  I love these videos!

I'm so inspired, I may grade some papers in a few mins.  ... well, maybe...

Merry Christmas All!

today I feel...

sad.

This nausea and extreme fatigue has made me miss my Angel even more. If he/she was still with me, I'd be sooo beyond this point of always feeling like I want to hurl... *****SiGh*****

I went and visited the March 2011 babycenter board that I used to frequent before my loss. Why did I do that? I read this...

You're 23 weeks pregnant! Turn on the radio and sway to the music. With her sense of movement well developed by now, your baby can feel you dance. And now that she's more than 11 inches long and weighs just over a pound (about as much as a large mango), you may be able to see her squirm underneath your clothes.

Oh! I miss that baby so much!!

That's not to say I'm not happy about our rainbow - please, no one hear me say that!  This little life is just as important and already holds so much meaning to me.  In fact, just ignore me.  I don't do pregnant well :-(

It's so hard to get anything accomplished these days - especially at work!  (I sound like a broken record - I'm sorry)

One last comment and I'll leave this useless post to spin out in cyberspace...

I can't wait to get rid of my 7th period class.  That's my public speaking class.  It's only a semester course, so I'll get a new set of kidos for that class in January.  THANK GOD!  This group I have now is so restless, so rude, so loud and they take so much of whatever ounce of energy I have left at the end of the day.  I'm just over them. 

Okay, I'm done complaining.  Sorry, just helps to get this out.  hummm... maybe if I just let myself throw up I'd feel better?... .humm..... nah!

Oh! ONE more thing!  One thing I hate about Christmas and TV - those darn car commercials!!!  I mean, REALLY!?  Who gives a car as a Christmas gift?!  That's just not realistic, at least in my world it isn't.  I HATE CHRISTMAS CAR COMMERCIALS!!!

I just found this - it says it all - one potty word though, please ignore that.  Imagine me bleeping it out.



And here is one of those dreaded commercials that I just saw on TV and which sparked the ending to this meaningless post...  Merry Christmas!

The Flu and stuff

My daughter has had the flu this week.  She woke up on Monday with a temp of 102, yesterday a temp of 100, and finally today, a temp of 89.  The doctor gave her some TamiFlu and said she should be better after 3 days - I'm guessing/hoping that this is the day.

SOOO glad!  I've stayed out of work with her on Monday and today - daddy had Tuesday.  Trying to get an active toddler to stay still so she can get better is REALLY hard!  So, I've had to get creative.  We've played some Candy Land, and I got my toes painted by my princess...

At least she was sitting still, right? ;-)

In other news, I'm feeling a little less nauseous today.  At least enough to maybe get a few things done around the house and some grading done during Beth's nap.  That's my hope.  We'll see how I feel in the next hour ;-)

My 8 weeks ultrasound will be next week - Thursday.  Counting down to that, all anxious and excited at the same time! I know my Angel will be on my mind the entire time...

My forget-me-not Angel is starting to come to life...



Hummm... what else can I share with you?  On this past Sunday night, my daughter and I were in her choir Christmas program.  I worked with the 3 and 4 year olds on this, and I did the narration for the play.  Here's the program...

God Bless ALL!


My New Look!

What do you think of the new blog design?!

Thanks Franchesca at Small Bird Studio!  You are awesome!!!

Blog Award!

I haven't written in a few days because when I go to type up a post, all I want to do is complain about how tired and nauseous I am.  And that's not right.  I should feel blessed to be exhausted and queasy!  Yet, I can't help myself - it's seriously affecting my current functioning.  I need to grade, but cannot... I need to clean my house, but cannot...  One thing I can do though - and since I'm prego, I can do it without guilt - EAT!  :-)  And it makes me feel better too - LOL

I've wanted to start work on making some new memorial forget-me-not angels too - to see if I can construct them better so the seeds don't fall out so much when I cut the paper into angel shapes.  That's one of the problems I encountered the first time I did them.  After watching some videos on youtube about how to make seeded paper, I think I know what I need to do to correct that.  I want to be sure this idea works well before I roll it out to you all - no later than March, the month my Angel was due.

Other news... my new blog makeover by Franchesca at Small Bird Studio is almost done!!  You should see it some time next week.  EXCITED!  I've seen a preview and already LOVE IT!

More news, Jessica from Too Beautiful for Earth gave me a blog award!  I'm so blessed to have such great BLM friends online, and she is one of them!  Thanks Jessica!!!



The rules of this award are:
1. Link back to the person who gave it to you
2. Pass it on to five (or more) other blogs
3. Leave them a comment telling them about the award

I tried to choose some blogs that I haven't given an award to before but are sooo deserving of recognition!  The blogs I chose are...

1. Small Bird Studio - Franchesca is so patient with me and hears everything I say about my desires for my blog.  As a result, she is putting together a design I LOVE, and all in the name of her lost angel.
2. Grow Baby Grow - Katherine is the author of this blog.  I love keeping up with her!  She's so open, honest, and real as she shares her journey and the story of her two losses.  Be sure to visit her!
3. In The Beginning There Was Genesis - I'm so happy to have found this baby loss momma online.  The passion she has for the memory of her angel is inspiring!
4.CarlyMarie - Her photography is AMAZING! I can only hope I win one of her giveaways!  She's doing a giveaway every day from now until Christmas - check her out!
5.Love, Life, and the Pursuit of our Fairytale - Andrea is such a sweet and caring BLM in our blog community.  She's shown me lots of love on my blog, so I wanted to return the favor!

I need a "I LOVE BLOGS" t-shirt - You ALL are great!

more good news and then stuff

First - update - Second round of blood work came back, and it looked exactly as it should and how the doctor wanted it to look! 

Yeah!

That means I won't see her until Dec. 16th!!!  Excited!

Let me preface this by saying, I'm not complaining.... but.... I'm still so tired and now so nauseous today.  I'm having a hard time functioning at work.  COME ON CHRISTMAS BREAK!!!!

Okay, now for other ... stuff...

My church has been through a lot lately, and last night, we had a pretty tense budget fight... um... I mean... meeting ;-)  I'm concerned about my church...

The economy is bad, ya'll.  - like you  needed me to tell you this - duh, Jamie!  I know, I know...  It's just hitting me this week.  With the cuts being made at the church and then with what they are asking us to continue to give to pay off the building debt, Michael and I need to make some hard decisions.  As always, I want to do nothing more than God's will!  However, it's so hard to know what that is sometimes, especially when it comes to how to spend money and what to give to the church (over and above the tithe, of course). 

Around the time I lost our Angel, I gave Michael the finances.  For the first 11 years of our marriage until this August, I had control of the budget and checkbook.  After our loss, I just couldn't focus on that or think about it anymore. I'm glad I gave it over to him - should have long ago.  I don't have to ultimately make any of the decisions regarding financial matters anymore - that makes me happy - but I know I need to pray that my husband has the wisdom and discernment to know how we should be stewards of God's money. 

I need to pray, but lately, it's been really hard to get out of bed in the morning!  I usually do my quiet time in the morning, but my butt can hardly slip out from under the covers let alone get to our extra room to do my devotional.  I hate that!!!!!  Please pray that God will send me energy!!!!  I don't need to be missing my quiet time right now!

There's other stuff swarming in my head right now, but if I typed it all down, it wouldn't be pretty... just an ugly stream of consciousness that would seem as if written in a different language. So I'll stop here :-)

Hope you all are well!
(((hugz)))